I'm really rubbish at patching and rewiring so I require some assistance.
My equipment list is:
Mackie 1402 Mixer (14 channels)
MOTU 828 MkII Interface
Decks With Mixer
Below is how I've set this up.

I've connected the:
MOTU 828 MkII To Mac via Firewire.
Monitors To Control Room INS - This allows me to adjust volume via the control room, master and channel 13-14 faders. All of these faders have to be up for me to hear anything. This has to be wrong!
MOTU 1/2 Main OUTS To Line 13/14 INS of Mackie - This allows me to listen to anything that comes out of my mac into my Mackie.
Decks with 2 channel mixer To MOTU 5/6 INS - This allows me to record straight into the mac as opposed to go via the mixer first.
Aux Sends of Mackie 1/2 To MOTU 3/4 INS -This allows me to record thru the Mackie by adjusting the sends on the appropriate channel.
These arer the only connections I've made. Everything else is left untouched.
Please do not tell me to read the maual. I have! I still don't get it.
My question:
1. How do I repatch this setup so I can turn the volume down via the control room fader (not all 3 faders, control, master and Lines 13/14) and still be able to listen to my headphones via a dedicated fader?